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If your divorce decree does not mandate paying for private school, you may stop payments. Communicate your decision clearly to your ex-wife and consider legal advice for modifying support obligations.Full Conversation
I have a 15 year old son who attends Watersprings Christian school in Idaho Falls Idaho, He's refusing to follow the court ordered *% time with my ex wife and me. As in he hasnt been over, in almost a year. I've hired a family lawyer and we're working through the divorce modification but I would like to address the legality of revolking my support for him going to watersprings. My Lawyer identified that my decree does not state that he must go to watersprings and I should be able to tell my ex wife that I no longer support him going there, and I can stop paying.
Hi ****,
It sounds like you have a complex situation. Given that your decree doesn't mandate your son's attendance at Watersprings Christian School, your lawyer's advice seems correct. Here are some general guidelines to consider:
- **Review the Divorce Decree:** Ensure the decree does not obligate you to pay for specific schooling.
- **Communicate with Your Ex-Wife:** Clearly state your intention to stop supporting his attendance at Watersprings.
- **Document Everything:** Keep records of all communications and decisions regarding this matter.
Would you like more information on how to proceed with modifying your support obligations?
It sounds like you have a complex situation. Given that your decree doesn't mandate your son's attendance at Watersprings Christian School, your lawyer's advice seems correct. Here are some general guidelines to consider:
- **Review the Divorce Decree:** Ensure the decree does not obligate you to pay for specific schooling.
- **Communicate with Your Ex-Wife:** Clearly state your intention to stop supporting his attendance at Watersprings.
- **Document Everything:** Keep records of all communications and decisions regarding this matter.
Would you like more information on how to proceed with modifying your support obligations?
yes please
Hi ****,
Here are some additional steps to consider in modifying your support obligations:
- **File a Motion to Modify Support:** You may need to file a motion in court to officially modify your support obligations. Your lawyer can assist with this.
- **Prepare Evidence:** Gather all necessary documents, including the divorce decree, records of your son's attendance, and any communications with your ex-wife.
- **Attend Court Hearings:** Be prepared to attend court hearings regarding the motion to modify support.
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Continue working closely with your lawyer to ensure all legal requirements are met.
Would you like more details on filing a motion to modify support in Washington?
Here are some additional steps to consider in modifying your support obligations:
- **File a Motion to Modify Support:** You may need to file a motion in court to officially modify your support obligations. Your lawyer can assist with this.
- **Prepare Evidence:** Gather all necessary documents, including the divorce decree, records of your son's attendance, and any communications with your ex-wife.
- **Attend Court Hearings:** Be prepared to attend court hearings regarding the motion to modify support.
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Continue working closely with your lawyer to ensure all legal requirements are met.
Would you like more details on filing a motion to modify support in Washington?
I'm in Idaho
Thank you for clarifying, ****. Here are some general steps to consider for modifying your support obligations in Idaho:
- **File a Motion:** File a motion to modify child support with the court that issued your original decree.
- **Gather Evidence:** Collect necessary documents, such as school attendance records and communications with your ex-wife.
- **Serve Notice:** Ensure your ex-wife is properly notified of the motion.
- **Attend Hearings:** Be prepared to attend court hearings regarding the modification.
Would you like more information on any of these steps?
- **File a Motion:** File a motion to modify child support with the court that issued your original decree.
- **Gather Evidence:** Collect necessary documents, such as school attendance records and communications with your ex-wife.
- **Serve Notice:** Ensure your ex-wife is properly notified of the motion.
- **Attend Hearings:** Be prepared to attend court hearings regarding the modification.
Would you like more information on any of these steps?
My child support does NOT include the private school. I pay that 'extra' on top of the child support
Hi ****,
Given your situation, here are some general guidelines you might consider:
- **Review Financial Obligations:** Ensure that your divorce decree and child support order do not require you to pay for private school.
- **Communicate with Ex-Wife:** Clearly inform her in writing that you will no longer pay for the private school.
- **File a Motion:** If necessary, file a motion to clarify or modify support obligations with the court.
Would you like more details on how to communicate this change or on filing a motion?
Given your situation, here are some general guidelines you might consider:
- **Review Financial Obligations:** Ensure that your divorce decree and child support order do not require you to pay for private school.
- **Communicate with Ex-Wife:** Clearly inform her in writing that you will no longer pay for the private school.
- **File a Motion:** If necessary, file a motion to clarify or modify support obligations with the court.
Would you like more details on how to communicate this change or on filing a motion?
Is it accecptable to give my son an ultimatum? I would support him going to watersprings if he agrees to follow the visitation my ex wife and I agreed upon
Hi ****,
It's generally not advisable to use ultimatums in legal matters involving visitation, as it can complicate your situation and potentially harm your relationship with your son. Here are some steps to consider:
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Discuss the potential legal and emotional implications with your lawyer.
- **Mediation:** Consider mediation to address visitation issues amicably.
- **Court Involvement:** If necessary, seek court intervention to enforce visitation orders.
Would you like more information on mediation or enforcing visitation orders?
It's generally not advisable to use ultimatums in legal matters involving visitation, as it can complicate your situation and potentially harm your relationship with your son. Here are some steps to consider:
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Discuss the potential legal and emotional implications with your lawyer.
- **Mediation:** Consider mediation to address visitation issues amicably.
- **Court Involvement:** If necessary, seek court intervention to enforce visitation orders.
Would you like more information on mediation or enforcing visitation orders?
In Idaho - am I allowed to just 'stop paying' a private school in the middle of the year - does the school have any recourse against me?
Hi ****,
If your agreement or contract with Watersprings Christian School doesn't specify conditions for early termination, the school might have recourse against you for breach of contract. Here are some steps to consider:
- **Review the Contract:** Look for any clauses regarding termination and penalties.
- **Communicate with the School:** Discuss your intention to stop payments and inquire about any potential consequences.
Would you like more information on handling potential breaches of contract?
If your agreement or contract with Watersprings Christian School doesn't specify conditions for early termination, the school might have recourse against you for breach of contract. Here are some steps to consider:
- **Review the Contract:** Look for any clauses regarding termination and penalties.
- **Communicate with the School:** Discuss your intention to stop payments and inquire about any potential consequences.
Would you like more information on handling potential breaches of contract?
this is their coparenting contract "I agree to pay the following percentages of my student's tuition and fees at Watersprings School."
Hi ****,
Thank you for providing the co-parenting contract. Given this, here are some steps you might consider:
- **Review the Contract:** Ensure there are no specific clauses about terminating tuition payments mid-year.
- **Communicate with Your Ex-Wife:** Clearly explain your situation and intentions regarding tuition payments.
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Seek advice on potential legal implications and the best way to proceed.
Would you like more information on addressing contract disputes or communicating with your ex-wife?
Thank you for providing the co-parenting contract. Given this, here are some steps you might consider:
- **Review the Contract:** Ensure there are no specific clauses about terminating tuition payments mid-year.
- **Communicate with Your Ex-Wife:** Clearly explain your situation and intentions regarding tuition payments.
- **Consult Your Lawyer:** Seek advice on potential legal implications and the best way to proceed.
Would you like more information on addressing contract disputes or communicating with your ex-wife?
can you rewrite this to achieve clear communication to my ex wife :
Sure, here is a clear and concise rewrite for communication with your ex-wife:
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Hi [Ex-Wife's Name],
I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to discuss our son’s tuition at Watersprings Christian School. After consulting with my lawyer, I've learned that our divorce decree does not require me to continue paying for private school.
Given that our son has not been following the court-ordered visitation schedule, I feel it is reasonable to reassess my financial support for his schooling. Therefore, I intend to stop paying for his tuition at Watersprings Christian School.
Could we discuss this matter further to find a mutually agreeable solution?
Best regards,
****
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Hi [Ex-Wife's Name],
I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to discuss our son’s tuition at Watersprings Christian School. After consulting with my lawyer, I've learned that our divorce decree does not require me to continue paying for private school.
Given that our son has not been following the court-ordered visitation schedule, I feel it is reasonable to reassess my financial support for his schooling. Therefore, I intend to stop paying for his tuition at Watersprings Christian School.
Could we discuss this matter further to find a mutually agreeable solution?
Best regards,
****
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Nicole -
The purpose of this letter is simple. I want to spend time with Timothy.
It has become apparent that Timothy has decided on the amount of time he is willing to spend with me. This should not be acceptable to either of us, as his parents.
I’ve given considerable thought and prayer to this statement, and its repercussions and I believe it to be fair, just, and fully within my legal and parental role as Timothy’s father to impose.
Timothy will, by his own choice, spend the identified time with me as declared by the judge and modified court order. The adherence to this will continue until he’s * - per our original agreement.
Failure to immediately comply with this instruction will result in my decision to stop supporting his attendance at Watersprings School.
Pursuant to our decree and Idaho Code *-* - all educational decisions are made by both parents - giving me the authority and equal right to suspend or modify my decision in sending him to a private school - Attending Watersprings is a privilege, not a right. Timothy will be in the Idaho Falls school district.
Your response is inconsequential as Timothy’s actions will dictate my decision.
I will be texting Timothy a similar message and would encourage you to motivate his response.
Timothy will have 30 days from the receipt of the text message to comply, or I will contact Watersprings and withdraw my support.
Hi Nicole,
I want to address an important matter regarding our son, Timothy. It has come to my attention that Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon.
I have decided that, in accordance with our decree and Idaho Code *-*, I am within my rights to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not comply with the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings and he will attend school in the Idaho Falls district.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
****
I want to address an important matter regarding our son, Timothy. It has come to my attention that Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon.
I have decided that, in accordance with our decree and Idaho Code *-*, I am within my rights to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not comply with the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings and he will attend school in the Idaho Falls district.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
****
how does this look:
Your revised message is clear and concise. Here are a few minor adjustments for clarity and tone:
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Hi Nicole,
I want to address an important matter regarding our son, Timothy. It has come to my attention that Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon.
In accordance with our decree and Idaho Code *-*, I am within my rights to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not comply with the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings and he will attend school in the Idaho Falls district.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
****
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Would you like any further adjustments?
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Hi Nicole,
I want to address an important matter regarding our son, Timothy. It has come to my attention that Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon.
In accordance with our decree and Idaho Code *-*, I am within my rights to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not comply with the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings and he will attend school in the Idaho Falls district.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
****
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Would you like any further adjustments?
Nicole,
Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon as it is detrimental to his well-being.
I have decided, following our decree modification and Idaho Code *-*, to exercise my legal and parental right to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School.
If Timothy chooses not to participate and adhere to the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings.
The following options are available for your consideration:
You can continue to have him attend Watersprings without my support.
He can attend school according to the district boundaries in Idaho Falls (IF High School)
Homeschooling. Kerry and I have been researching Christian homeschooling groups in the area, I would be very supportive of this.
Charter Schools - There are a few (not all) Charter schools in the area that I would be supportive of Timothy attending. If this is your preference, please e-mail your correspondence.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
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Father
Hi ****,
Your message is clear and direct. Here are a few minor adjustments for clarity and tone:
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Nicole,
Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon, as it is crucial for his well-being.
In accordance with our decree modification and Idaho Code *-*, I have decided to exercise my legal and parental right to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not adhere to the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings.
The following options are available for your consideration:
- Continue to have him attend Watersprings without my support.
- Enroll him in the Idaho Falls school district (IF High School).
- Homeschooling: I have been researching Christian homeschooling groups in the area and would be supportive of this.
- Charter Schools: There are a few charter schools in the area that I would support Timothy attending. If this is your preference, please email me.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
**** de
Your message is clear and direct. Here are a few minor adjustments for clarity and tone:
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Nicole,
Timothy is not adhering to the court-ordered visitation schedule. As his parents, we need to ensure that he spends time with both of us as initially agreed upon, as it is crucial for his well-being.
In accordance with our decree modification and Idaho Code *-*, I have decided to exercise my legal and parental right to modify my support for Timothy's attendance at Watersprings School. If Timothy does not adhere to the visitation schedule within 30 days of receiving this notice, I will withdraw my support for his attendance at Watersprings.
The following options are available for your consideration:
- Continue to have him attend Watersprings without my support.
- Enroll him in the Idaho Falls school district (IF High School).
- Homeschooling: I have been researching Christian homeschooling groups in the area and would be supportive of this.
- Charter Schools: There are a few charter schools in the area that I would support Timothy attending. If this is your preference, please email me.
I will communicate this directly to Timothy as well. Your cooperation in encouraging him to follow the visitation schedule would be appreciated.
Best regards,
**** de